Spotlight

In This Conversation

0:00  Two highlights of the interview
0:32  What drew you to focus your work on shame rather than on other emotions?
2:56  How does unrecognized shame affect our relationships?
4:35  Do early life experiences influence how shame develops in people?
8:16  Could you share your thoughts about shame’s connection with vulnerability?
9:06  What about shame’s connection with setting up boundaries?
10:01  When we feel anger or other strong emotions, how can we tell if shame is underneath or not?
12:30  How can we transform strongly activated shame, e.g., when rejected, money talks, or feelings of unworthiness?
13:53  How can parents work with guilt and shame in parenting?
19:19  What inner resources or practices support the process of transforming deep or long-held shame?
20:49  “When I notice an inner voice saying ‘You should,’ would you say it’s a good idea to recognize it as just a limited belief?”
22:31  “Shame is about how I look at myself. So would you say that if I can accept myself, I won’t feel shame?”
23:27  “In the TV show Sex and the City, when Samantha is wearing fur and confronted by protesters, is that when shame shows up?”
27:24  “I feel shame when I receive compliments. Could you comment on that?”
28:35  “Could you share more about shame around money or feelings of unworthiness?”
30:49  “What’s it like being vulnerable at work? How can we be authentic while protecting ourselves?”